Lent: Week One Update
This is a basic breakdown of how we are living during Lent:
1. At Breakfast we are avoiding Pop-Tarts for the kids and bagels with cream cheese for me. Instead we are all eating toast, cereal, and/or fruit. Dan and I still drink coffee but we’re skipping the flavored creamer and using milk and sweetener instead.
2. At Lunch we’re adopting an “eat what is offered to you” mentality. The kids eat at school. Dan and I are trying to eat sandwiches at home unless we have lunch meetings. For meetings we are trying to choose salads or simple meat and vegetable combos in one plate only portions.
3. For Snacks we have oranges and bananas and applesauce for the kids. They also take cheese sticks to school.
4. For Supper we’re rotating basically three meal options: rice and beans (which we made for the first time on our own), spaghetti with sauce, and sandwiches or salad.
So far this is working great. We feel the tension of wanting more options but still feel satisfied. My greatest struggle was giving up Diet Coke. I really thought I was going to die on Day 2. Since then, though, I’ve thought it sounded good but I haven’t craved it like I was those first two days. I’m actually enjoying water. I also drink juice with some meals.
Our first Feast Day was on Sunday. It was a special time. The girls were out of town with Mom – see here – so just Dan and I and Jesse went out to eat together. We enjoyed the buffet (limit of one dinner plate and one dessert plate) and Dan lead us in a time of celebrating each other and offering prayer. That night was a party with Serenity – see here – so I was truly feasting all day! I think I’ll stay off Diet Coke even on my feast day, though; the book we’re reading recommends you avoid trigger foods even on your feast day.
Each night at supper we read the passage in A Place at the Table about a child in another part of the world. Then I read the prayer for that day and one of the kids follows with a prayer for the child we learned about. Not surprisingly, Ada, our 8 year old, is most involved, but the other kids are enjoying it as well. The first night I served only salad and Macy cried. At first I thought to myself that this was going to be a long forty days, but then I put on my tough face and told her that there are many children in the world who cry about their food but for very different reasons. Then I told the other kids not to baby her. (You can’t imagine how she’s wrapped them all around her finger.) It didn’t take long for her to join in and eat!
Tonight I made a banana cake from the browning fruit on our counter and I felt like a pioneer or something! We each ate our thick slices with so much appreciation! It was a big change from the usual way we scarf down Little Debbie snack cakes on our way out the door or while we watch something on Netflix. The tone we were trying to establish with this Lenten fast, one of gratitude and compassion, has certainly happened this week. I’m grateful.






Your girls talked about their feast several times on the trip. The two big girls really get it, and they seemed pleased to be doing something so important. Macy was very serious when she explained to me, “we have pop tawts, but we can’t eat ‘dem.”
This is the kind of thing that shapes little souls. Well-done!
Oh, Macy. The idea of fasting always made me cry too – well into my young adulthood. I never have conquered that spiritual discipline or even tried very hard to. This I get though. It has so many implications beyond what I’ve understood fasting to be. It’s de-cluttering with food…and food expense. It’s brilliant. Way to go, little Whites. (And you parent Whites too.)
It has been so jarring, in a good way, hasn’t it? I am seriously wigged out by the amount of money we have spent on food in the past. Meat mostly being the culprit. I’m sure we’ll cut back on that even after lent is over.
This morning was super fun for me because we’ve been talking about not just fasting for ourselves – to be obedient, penitent, etc, but fasting to share with the poor. So this morning I read to Peter and Jude from Isaiah 58 about “sharing our food with the hungry” before giving them a good chunk of the grocery money we’ve saved for Penny Wars today. I know they were partially happy to help out their class (they both know they are way too far behind to WIN) but Peter especially had the light bulb moment when he realized that money we don’t spend we can GIVE.
And on a selfish note, I am blissfully enjoying not having to answer the “what’s for dinner, mom?” question every day. Sims walked up to my chair last night and started to ask before he stopped himself with an “Ohhh, beans and wice. Wight.” Priceless.
You guys are so inspiring, I am thoroughly enjoying the Lent updates. I’m wondering if you go for a while without the Diet Coke, if you will want to go back to it after Lent. Keep going Whites, you’re doing great!